You feel that you finally found the guy of your dreams and even a psychic you trust can see him in your future. But the problem is that you live far from each other. Well, there are couples who survived a long distance relationship, so you can also do the same. It may be more challenging, but it’s possible. Here are some tips on how to make this happen.
Commit Yourself
This is the first and most important thing that you should do. Ask yourself if you’re ready to commit yourself to this relationship. Every relationship requires hard work. But being far away from each other requires more effort. If you don’t think you’re ready to face these challenges, this may not be for you. However, if you are ready to commit yourself to the relationship, the other person should also do the same. This requires commitment and loyalty on both parties.
Be Honest and Open
Be yourself. Let your partner know what you truly think and feel. There are times that you may get angry or frustrated. Say it so it wouldn’t build up. Suppressing your feelings could affect the relationship. Remember that it’s not always a walk in the park. Even couples who are not in a long distance relationship experience this. It’s normal to have down moments. What’s important is that you talk about it and that you do your best to fix it as soon as possible.
Communicate Regularly
With the advancement of technology, it’s now easier and cheaper to communicate with each other. It doesn’t always have to be hours of conversation. If your schedule permits it, do so. But if not, do a quick text, chat or e-mail. Update each other on what’s happening in your life. Simple things like what you did at work or what you ate for lunch, as long as you keep the communication alive. This would help bridge the gap of not being able to see each other every day.
Keep Yourself Busy
This doesn’t mean that you keep yourself too busy to the point that you can’t give your partner quality time. What it means is that you should have other things to do to occupy your time when you and your partner are not talking. This is to lessen the loneliness that you feel. Let’s face it, it’s not all the time that both of you will be available to talk or chat. You should be doing other things that you enjoy when your boyfriend is not available for some reason. If something comes up and you know that you can’t really talk to him as much as you want to, let him know so he would understand.
Visit Each Other
If the time and budget allow, see to it that you see each other when you can. Being together in person is still different, even if you’re communicating to each other regularly. Save together so at least one person can visit the other. There’s always a way if you really want to.
That amazing moment when you’re finally together.
Have Surprises
Surprises make relationships more exciting. Send him a surprise gift of something that he really wants. There are several online shops that offer delivery in any part of the world. It doesn’t even have to be a material thing. Write a poem, create a photo collage or make a video showing your love story. It feels good to get these unexpected gifts every now and then.
Plan for the Future Together
If you really see each other being together in the future, make plans together. This would give you encouragement knowing that you will not be apart forever.
Making a long distance relationship work may not be easy, but it’s all worth it if you and your partner really love each other.
My husband and I (we have been married for 11 years now) had a long distance relationship for 3 years. We would have married sooner if it hadn’t been for visa paperwork. That was before there was FB and smart phones so we did a lot of LONG phone calls. I think it was great for our relationship because we really talked, it wasn’t just lovey dovey stuff. We both kept a journal and every month we would mail the journals to each other and continue to write in that one. We have a lot of full big journals which are really cool to read back on. We also wrote letters probably every week. We have a LOT of letters. We actually have our earliest conversations recorded because we met in a chat room and saved the conversations. It was not fun being long distance, but we were both very committed and don’t regret waiting for each other. 11 years and 4 children later we still love being together.
I have never been in a long distance relationship, but everything you have listed here makes perfect sense to me. I like the idea of little surprises. It keeps things fresh 🙂
I had to deal with this when my husband was stationed in North Carolina in the Army and we were dating. It’s important to keep these tips in mind.
I’ve tried long distance relationships before and they never worked out. Granted I was young at the time and we didn’t communicate a lot nor did we get the chance to have visits before it came crashing to an end.
It is so hard to maintain a long distance relationship and unfortunately my husband and I might be facing this soon. If he has to take a job farther away just to get an income coming in, I need to stay where we are for the kids – not looking forward to it though.
I think it adds a whole different dynamic in to the equation when kids are involved. Best of luck!
Thank you, I just really hope it does not come to that.
Even when you are together there is a distance that can form. Communication is always important.
I did this when I was still in high school for a couple of years. It worked out pretty well, and we ended up getting married.
I can say I’ve never had a long distance relationship. though with social media I’m meeting lots of people from other countries.
I’ve never been in a long distance relationship but I think these tips would work to just about any relationship! Great post!
Long distance relationships can be hard but these are great ways to make the relationship work. Every challenge needs a great strategy to make it possible!- Alice Chase
It must be so difficult being away from some one but I can only guess if you want it enough somehow it will always work out 😉 x
My husband and I have had several periods in our relationship where we have done this– and as you said, you can make it work, it just takes lots of love and a strong commitment from both.
I did it for 3 years. me in Texas, him in England. In the end it was just too much. We decided it would be best to go our separate ways.
My husband used to travel for work so much it was like being in a long distance relationship. It takes a lot of work, but it can be very rewarding. Love the “plan for the future” tip.
Long distance relationship isn’t easy. This was a really great read.
Was only long distance over a summer. I hated it! These are great tips when it’s unavoidable though!
Long distance relationships are very hard. It takes two special people to make it work. You really offered some really good ideas. thanks for sharing
Commicating is definitely key when it comes to long distance relationships. I couldn’t imagine ever being in a long distance relationship though.
My husband and I are happily married after a cross-country long distance relationship. We used to see each other every three months!
I’m in a long distance relationship with this guy, it’s really hard 🙁 but we try… and next year we plan to see each other and meet his family. This is helpful… trust, commitments and communications are the three most important part of long distance relationship.